Gratitude vs. Thankfulness
Gratitude vs. Thankfulness: What They Mean for Domestic Violence Survivors
As Thanksgiving approaches, we often hear words like grateful and thankful; many people use these terms interchangeably. However, for those of us who are domestic violence survivors, these words take on a special and distinct meaning that touches the heart in unique ways. Understanding the difference between gratitude and thankfulness can help us on our journey of healing and growth.
Gratitude: An Inner Reflection
Gratitude is the quiet, inner acknowledgment of the good surrounding us, even if that good sometimes seems small. It’s a feeling we cultivate within ourselves, often in places we least expect. For survivors, gratitude might look like appreciating moments of peace, recognizing the beauty of a new beginning, or simply finding comfort in a safe place.
Gratitude doesn’t erase what we’ve been through, but it helps us recognize the strength we’ve developed. We might be grateful for the resilience we discovered in ourselves, the courage we found to walk away, or the self-love we’re slowly rebuilding. This gratitude is personal and deeply rooted in our own experiences—it’s about appreciating where we are on our journey, no matter how challenging it’s been.
Thankfulness: Expressing Appreciation
While gratitude is an inner feeling, thankfulness is about expressing that appreciation outwardly, often to those who have been part of our healing journey. Being thankful means acknowledging the friends, family members, advocates, and community who stood by us, lifted us, and reminded us of our worth. It’s letting others know that their support mattered and helped us survive, heal, and grow.
Thankfulness can be as simple as sending a message to a loved one or sharing a moment of connection with others who understand. It’s about sharing our gratitude with those who helped us find our strength, and sometimes, it’s about giving back when we feel ready, offering a hand to others who are still finding their way.
Why Both Are Important for Survivors
For many domestic violence survivors, embracing both gratitude and thankfulness is a powerful part of the healing process. Gratitude reminds us of how far we’ve come, helps us find peace in the present, and nurtures our resilience. Thankfulness connects us to others, helping us recognize the existing support network and strengthening the bonds that encourage us forward.
In this season of Thanksgiving, we can honor both of these feelings. We’re grateful for the resilience we’ve cultivated and for the people and organizations who’ve helped us along the way. Together, these feelings create a foundation of hope, connection, and healing as we move toward a brighter, safer future.
To anyone who’s currently facing similar struggles: You’re not alone. There’s strength within you, and there’s support around you. May you find moments of gratitude and the courage to reach out to those who can help.
